No One Ruined Your Day — Unless You Handed It Over

My reactions are mine.

Not my spouse’s.

Not my coworker’s.

Not my child’s.

Mine.

When I hear someone say, “They ruined my day,” or “That completely ruined my plans,” I feel for them.

Truly.

Disappointment is real. Hurt is real. Frustration is real.

But if I’m honest… I cringe a little too.

Because as a woman of faith, I’ve had to wrestle with something uncomfortable:

If God is sovereign, how much power am I handing over to people?

Life is a series of choices. And while we don’t get to choose everything that happens to us, we do get to choose how we respond.

And that response matters.

Faith Isn’t Fragile

Faith doesn’t mean nothing hard happens.

It means when it does, you are not without anchor.

People will cancel.

Plans will fall apart.

Someone will say something that stings.

Doors will close.

But none of that overrides who God says you are.

When I’ve blamed someone else for “ruining my day,” what I was really saying was:

“You now control my peace.”

And that’s a dangerous trade.

Because peace was never meant to be outsourced to people. It was meant to be rooted in Him.

Positivity Is Not the Same as Peace

Let’s be clear about something.

Affirmations are nice.

Good vibes are nice.

Positive thinking has its place.

But positivity without inner work is just spiritual sugar.

You can quote Scripture all day and still react from old wounds.

You can say “God’s got this” and still spiral internally.

Real faith requires alignment.

It requires asking:

Why did that trigger me?

What belief is underneath this reaction?

Am I responding from fear… or from trust?

Faith-based resilience isn’t pretending you’re okay.

It’s bringing your real reaction to God and letting Him reshape it.

That’s the work.

Steady, Not Just “Sufficient”

There were seasons where I struggled with the word “sufficient.” It felt small to me. Like barely enough.

But faith isn’t about barely enough.

It’s about being steady.

Steady like a tree rooted deep enough to bend with the wind but not break.

When your faith is steady, a canceled plan doesn’t uproot you.

A hard conversation doesn’t dismantle you.

An inconvenience doesn’t derail your entire emotional state.

Not because you’re pretending it didn’t matter —

but because you’re rooted deeper than the moment.

The Real Shift

The shift isn’t:

“I will have a perfect day.”

The shift is:

“Lord, anchor me so no one else dictates my peace.”

That’s different.

That’s mature faith.

That’s choosing agency while still surrendering control of outcomes.

You can choose to let the moment own you.

Or you can choose to respond from trust.

And trust says:

God is still God.

This moment is not my whole story.

I am responsible for my response.

That’s not toxic positivity.

That’s rooted resilience.

And that kind of resilience?

It doesn’t crumble when plans do.